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Expectant Birth Parents,

We are here to guide you through the emotions and challenges that can arise from adoptions.

Dedicated Expectant Mother phone line call or text 24/7:  407-726-0544

Frequently asked questions

Can I get financial help during the pregnancy?


Yes, many expectant mothers receive financial help for the duration of their pregnancy and the six weeks postpartum. Other services such as counseling are also available to you. The law allows expectant mothers to have reasonable assistance in the following areas: housing, utilities, maternity clothing, basic phone service, food, toiletries, transportation, insurance and medical expenses necessary for the health and well-being of both the mother and child.




Can I choose the adoptive family?


United In Love Adoptions has many hopeful adoptive families waiting for a child. We will ask you exactly what you are looking for in an adoptive family to create your "Dream Family"




What if I am not sure who the father is?


If you're not sure who the father is, that's perfectly alright. Our adoption coordinators will be able to guide you through all of the legal aspects of your adoption. The important thing is that you disclose what you do know and are open and honest with the Expectant Parent Coordinator so we can be sure all required steps are taken that are necessary to either locate and notify him or to show where we have done our due diligence to protect everyone involved in the process appropriately.




How much will this adoption cost me?


As a birth parent, an adoption should not cost you anything. You are not responsible for any adoption related legal fees and we provide counseling services at no charge.




What is the process after the baby is delivered?


Each person's journey is unique, you will make an individualized birth plan with your Adoption Coordinator according to your specific situation and needs. These plans can range from no contact with the baby after birth to pictures with the adoptive parents following the adoption signing. We are respectful of your needs and desires and follow your wishes during your hospital stay and beyond. We coordinate prior to your arrival with the hospital social worker and medical staff to ensure you are comfortable and your individualized needs are met. We are there to advocate for you with the hospital for your and your baby's best possible outcome.




What services can I expect from my Expectant Parent Coordiantor?


The Expectant Parent Coordinator is there to help you with all aspects of your pregnancy. They will help you get insurance, find an Obstetrician, help you keep up with your OB visits, provide transportation to visits, connect you with community resources and will be available to listen and answer questions you have along the way. They are there to support you through this process and ensure you don't have to do this alone. The Expectant Parent Coordinator is available 24 hours a day 365 days a year.




How do I know if adoption is the right choice for me?


By working with your Expectant Parent Coordinator, you will be provided education and resources to help you know all of your options. You will discuss things such as your financial ability, living situation, & support system - just to name a few - which can help you decide if adoption is the best option for you.




Will an adoptive family want my baby if there has been drug use, if I have mental health issues, or if there are other issues/concerns with the baby’s health?


Yes, many families are happy to care for all types of needs the baby/child may have and are open to many different situations. Just like you have specific things you will want in an adoptive family; adoptive families will be open and looking for specific situations too. Adoptive families are educated on various possible risks and we will help you find the best family to love and care for your child, no matter what their situation.




What is the difference between Open and Closed Adoptions?


After you have decided that adoption is the right choice for you and your child, you may choose whether or not you want to stay in contact with your baby and their adoptive family. The choice is yours to make and your adoption will be customized based on your personal wishes between open, semi-open and closed adoption. Open Adoption – comes in many different forms. You will be able to read the adoptive parents’ profile, receive letters and photos from them; communicate by telephone; or even meet them in-person. Some open adoptions may include the exchange of names and addresses of the birth and adoptive parents and visitation. In some cases, the birth mother may invite the adoptive parents to be present during labor and delivery or visit in the hospital afterwards. Semi-Open Adoption – Your adoption plans may include reviewing adoptive parents’ profiles, letters and photos; communicating by telephone; or meeting them in-person. You may receive pictures and letters after the adoption regarding the child from the Adoptive Parents through UIL once, twice or three times a year until the child is 18 years old. Many families share holiday cards, gifts and videos. You may also choose for the agency to hold your photos and letters until you feel ready to receive them. Closed Adoption – You may choose to have a confidential, private adoption, which means that you would not have any contact with the adoptive family before or after the adoption. You and the adoptive parents will know each other's first names but nothing else identifying. Florida law requires that your identifying information and the adoptive parents identifying information remain confidential. Every mother feels differently about future contact with her baby and their adoptive family. There is no right or wrong decision, only what you as the expectant mother are comfortable with. UIL will help prepare a mutual agreement regarding future contact between you and the adoptive family so that everyone understands what will be expected of him or her.




Can a birth mother anonymously surrender a newborn child?


Yes, this is called the Safe Haven Act. Within seven (7) days of giving birth, a birth mother can drop the child off at a hospital, ambulance station, or fire department and not have to provide any information regarding herself or the child. There is a presumption that the parent who leaves the newborn infant intended to leave the newborn infant and consented to termination of parental rights. The birth mother will not be looked for or prosecuted. Call 1-877-767-BABY (2229) for a toll-free, multilingual help line. It’s staffed 24 hours a day and all calls are confidential. Click here for more information from www.asafehavenfornewborns.com




What are the rights and responsibilities of an expectant father?


There are two types of expectant fathers: legal and named fathers. In most cases a man is the legal father of a child if the minor was conceived/born while the man was married to the child’s mother, if the baby has been established in a court proceeding to be his child (ex. paternity action), or if the man has filed an affidavit of paternity. A man who is an unmarried biological father (a/k/a named expectant father) has fewer rights and protections in the adoption process than a legal father. Legal fathers - father’s consent to termination of parental rights and adoption is required in writing after the birth of the child. Unmarried expectant biological father/Non-legal fathers - In Florida, if able and aware of the pregnancy, a birth father who desires to establish and/or protect his rights is expected to pay a fair and reasonable amount of the expenses incurred in connection with the mother's pregnancy and the child's birth, in accordance with his financial ability, when not prevented from doing so by the birth mother or others. We attempt to locate and contact birth fathers to see if they will voluntarily cooperate with the adoption and sign a consent or affidavit of nonpaternity.




How do you decide if adoptive parents are fit to adopt a child?


A home study must be completed which includes a minimum of local and FBI background checks, assessment of the physical environment of the home, financial screening, documentation of counseling and education on adoption, and recent medical reports. The adoptive parents will also submit testimonials from their friends and family and be screened in person by the Agency personnel. After the baby is placed in the home, post placement visits are required to check on the well-being of the baby, bonding, and any other issues related to the adoption. These visits must be done every thirty (30) days until the adoption is finalized and as well as weekly check-ins with their Adoptive Parent Coordinator. A report is written recommending the finalization if everything is going well and submitted to the courts prior to placement.





Expecting

Finding the perfect match:

How do I choose a family for my child?

This is the biggest question a woman considering adoption will ask themself. Where do I even begin to find people who want to adopt a baby, let alone families wanting to adopt that happen to meet all of my expectations? And if I find people who want to adopt and who seem like a good fit, how will I know they’re safe and ready to raise my child?

That’s where United In Love comes in. With our resources, standards for adoptive parents and personal adoption experience, we will absolutely help you find the perfect family for your baby.